The following are 25 powerful Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (EHS) truisms that have stood the test of time. They capture, in a memorable way, profound biblical truths about EHS as a discipleship paradigm. I use them often in my teaching and invite you to do the same.
- It is not possible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.
- Jesus may be in your heart but grandpa is in your bones.
- We cannot give what we do not possess.
- What I do matters. Who I am matters much more.
- Limits are often God’s gifts in disguise.
- As goes the leader, so goes the church.
- For an expectation to be valid, it must be conscious, realistic, spoken, and agreed upon.
- If you skim on your inner work, your outer work will suffer as well.
- You can’t separate knowing God from knowing yourself.
- We cannot change what we are unaware of.
- Loss marks the place where self-knowledge and powerful transformation happen – if we say yes to God.
- Our doing for Jesus must be sustained by a life of being with Jesus.
- We are not leaders who are married. We lead out of our marriages.
- Our shadows undermine the best of who we are unless we face them.
- Without silence and solitude it is almost impossible to grow in the spiritual life
- The degree to which we grieve our losses is the degree to which we are compassionate people.
- God speaks in the sound of sheer silence.
- The truth sets us free, but it first makes us miserable (Sandra Wilson).
- When we fail to practice Sabbath, we do violence to ourselves.
- Sometimes you have to disrupt false peace to have true peace.
- The body is a major, not a minor prophet.
- We speak respectfully, honestly, clearly, and in a timely way, in the new family of Jesus.
- We have to go backwards in order to go forward.
- Discipleship is the putting off the sinful patterns of your family of origin, and culture, and learning to live in the new family of Jesus.
- When you are not in reality, you are not in spirituality.
For those of you who are deep in EHS, what might you add? I would like to know.